Many parents often have problems or issues with discipline. They claim they have strong willed children and they just are at a loss with the subject of discipline.
Often, the problem with discipline isn’t the children — it’s the parents!
Many will complain that their children will not behave. Perhaps Mom and Dad are just too busy or too tired to handle the situations effectively and lovingly with disciplining their children.
All too often these parents will throw their hands up in the air, look for quick fixes or discipline inconsistently. Not too long ago, my husband and I decided to cut back on all the extra curricular activities for both the children and ourselves.
We realized that we needed more time and energy to focus on shaping and handling our children’s behavior.
Parents, we need to change our behavior before we can expect our children to change theirs.
Instead of saying ‘Do as I say, not as I do’..we need to concentrate on ‘Do a I say and as I do’. These words will keep us accountable for our actions as parents and we will see the changes in our children’s behaviors.
Those are results we all want as parents.
This is so true! I always enjoy your wise words for dealing with our children. It is the hardest job in the world and takes a lot of work and being very consistent in disciplining. Too many times parents being too tired, stressed and frustrated just give up when the kids put up resistance. They need loving, firm, and consitent directions from BOTH parents. Thanaks for your helpful posts!!!!
My kids aren’t perfect and I’m not either, but I so agree. Most problems with kids are really problems with the parents (or the parenting). I’m not happy with my older daughter’s classroom situation this year, but I have noticed that since we started a Girl Scout Troop (I’m the leader), SHE is happier and feeling more confident. We are spending time together and she sees me helping others-what more could I ask for?