Consistency is essential in every aspect of our lives, but it seems to be ultimately essential in the role of parenting. After speaking to a friend today, I was compelled to write this post. She is a teacher’s aide at a private institution and was truly amazed at how disrespectful children can be. Of course, this was no surprise to me considering I see it on a daily basis. However I was saddened because although the children are being disrespectful, nothing is being done to rectify the situation.
Consistency begins at home and it is quite simple to do. Think about when we have a pet such as dog or cat. When they are in the training process of ‘potty training’ it requires consistency. Every day for days on end sometimes months. Why don’t we apply the same process in our child rearing? A child learns from consistency and consequences. Now I’m NOT advocating severe punishment because quite honestly with consistency that is not necessary.
In order to see consistency in our children and their behavior, we as parents must be consistent as well. It is important for parents to be on the same page, both mom and dad. If that is not possible, then it is essential for your support system to be on the same page. Nothing is more confusing to a child when they hear one adult say something and the other say something completely different.
Nothing pains me more than watching children misbehave and parents throwing their hands up in the air. Have you ever wondered if that is the child’s form of cry for help? Some children will have difficulty communicating and some are too young to fully express themselves, so they act out instead. Take the time to listen to your children and express the rules and boundaries of your household to them. Remember without consistency there is chaos. Consistency is the key to success.
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