Have you ever had to tell a child about death? Although we as adults understand that death is inevitable, our children have a difficult time with it. Let’s face it some adults have a difficult time too. So how do we approach this subject with our children.
We share stories and experiences but somehow it is still difficult to accept. The best thing to do is to let your children mourn. It’s okay to cry, it’s actually very healthy to let out your pain. For some it comes in the form of tears while others will scream or possibly become very angry. We will all express sorrow in different forms, but what’s important is to allow the mourning to occur.
I’m no stranger to loss. Having lost both parents I am very familiar with the feelings that follow a loss. Now just recently we lost a puppy and our oldest dog which was like a child to us. I’ve experienced many losses and each one is more difficult than the other. Our children will not understand the process of death and will look to us for explanation.
Wow, that is definitely the hardest part. Why does parenting have to be so difficult? Oh yeah, now I remember. It’s difficult but that’s all part of making it that more meaningful. Helping to form little lives into wonderful and respectful adults is an amazing task and am truly blessed to have the opportunity to have this experience.
Whether you are a parent or not, let’s not forget that we can all make a lasting impression in a child’s life. We are watched at all times and imitated as well. Sharing our emotions whether happy or sad is part of our lessons to children. Letting them know that it is perfectly normal to be sad, hurt, cry and even scream. That is all part of the mourning process, but also letting them know that it is part of life. This realization will help them accept it quicker.
We’ve taught our children that all things that live will eventually die. In some cases it will happen sooner than expected.
Death is never fun, but we know it is necessary. Communicating to our children this subject is one of great importance. This lesson is never an easy one, and I wish I could tell you that it will get easier, but I can’t. Remember to be there for your children and loved ones when this occurs and be part of the support system, that’s the most important part during times like these.
